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 ONLINE GROUP OPENING SEPTEMBER 2018

 opening our relationship

A Group experience like no other

IS OUR COMMUNITY FOR YOU?

ARE YOU CRAVING A MORE INTENTIONAL WAY TO DO RELATIONSHIPS?

HAVE YOU ALWAYS KNOWN THERE'S MORE TO LOVE AND DESIRE THAN TRADITIONAL MONOGAMY CAN HOLD?

ARE YOU UNSURE HOW TO BUILD A CONSENSUALLY NON-MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP?

THIS GROUP IS JUST FOR YOU...


This program is unique, like your love

There are two fields of thought in the world of ethical non-monogamy: Sex Educators and Therapists. 

Sex Educators will tell you polyamory is an enlightened form of loving based on their lived experience (and often little professional expertise). They often unintentionally shame or overwhelm participants who aren't sure non-monogamy is for them.  

And the truth is, non-monogamy isn't right for everyone. 

Therapists usually have excellent expertise in supporting mental health conditions- but there's nothing unhealthy about talking with a partner about desire and intimacy with other people. 

While therapy is a great source of personal support, most therapists unintentionally project their personal hesitations about open relationships into your clinical conversations with them. 

You want to discern what sort of relationship path is right for you and you don't need more judgment in your life. 

A DIFFERENT KIND OF COACH

Enter Gina: I've trained as both a sex educator (with lived experience in consensual non-monogamy and monogamy) and as a couples counselor and marriage therapist.  When I was in graduate school there was even less research and information on serving polyamorous relationships. 

I centered my studies on applying communication skills and couples counseling theory in consensually non-monogamous relationships.  I've since spent ten years and nearly 10,000 session hours working primarily with polyamorous and open marriages and couples discerning if, when, and how non-monogamy might work for them.   

Unfortunately I can't see every couple considering opening their relationship in coaching sessions, so I created this program for two key reasons:

  1. I wanted to share the knowledge I've gained with more people. Even if you can't see me in Portland, or online coaching isn't the right fit right now, I've got a LOT of good stuff to share to help you sort out what's right for you and how to act on it.

  2. Most of the clients I support feel really isolated when considering opening their relationship. They typically know very few others who are out about their open relationships (though, trust me, they are all around you) and have lots of friends and family who might judge or shame them for opening up.

I created these communities to help connect folks having intentional conversations about opening up- without judgment, shame, or blame. I wanted a space to learn from the experiences of others, share stories, and make friends with other couples who want to love more.

The core of this program is about connecting with yourself, clarifying your values and vision, understanding what's really meaningful to you in partnership so you can better connect with your partner(s). 

THIS PROGRAM WILL:

  • CLARIFY WHAT YOU NEED AND WANT INDIVIDUALLY- SO YOU CAN CULTIVATE THE RIGHT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP FOR YOU.

  • INFORM YOU ABOUT ALL THE OPTIONS WITHOUT JUDGING YOU.

  • SUPPORT YOU WITH SKILLS TO BUILD INTENTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS OF ALL KINDS.

  • HONOR YOUR UNIQUE RELATIONSHIP AMD SUPPORT YOU IN MOVING FORWARD TOGETHER.

NO MATTER WHAT PATH YOU CHOOSE.

 
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THOUGHTS FROM PAST PARTICIPANTS

"I have nothing but great things to say about this experience. We met great friends I think we'll stay in touch with.  I really didn't anticipate I'd be saying this, but I felt really comfortable the whole time. 

Gina made it so easy to talk about really hard stuff with strangers and now we're not strangers at all...

... It's really good to know we're not the only ones facing this."

-Thomas, Forest Grove, Oregon

"I cannot believe I never thought about intimacy this way.  Gina's model is truly groundbreaking.  I can't wait to share it with my roommates.

- Dave, Bend, Oregon

 

"I only wish we'd signed up sooner. This information would have really changed the last six months for us.

- Renee, Tacoma, Washington

 polyamory group | open relationship group

WHO ATTENDS OPEN MINDS OPEN HEARTS?

Folks who choose this GROUP wish to focus on the following areas:

 

CHANGE-MAKING

You've outgrown your past relationship models but you're not sure how to cultivate something new.

Or you're sure some previous patterns aren't serving you and you want support changing the way you share intimacy. 

Our program's specialty is identifying patterns, considering them, and determining the best path forward. 

COMMUNICATION

You want to communicate effectively through difficult conversations with partners moving forward. 

You want to be heard and understood, just as you want to deeply hear and understand.

We'll work together to help you make clear requests, express empathy, set compassionate boundaries, and foster sexual chemistry.

LOVERS

You're interested in exploring new ways to love, possibilities for more love and intimacy in your life...

...but you're not sure what exactly that will look like. Is it purely sexual?  Are there emotional, intellectual, or spiritual elements you desire?

Let's create a vision that aligns with your personal values and strengths.

PARTNERSHIPS

You have one connected partnership- and it's fulfilling on so many levels. 

Or you're between partnerships, or exploring the concept of solo-polyamory for the first time.

Let's look at how you can add more intimacy and exploration with others without threatening what you share with each partner.

 

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PROGRAM VALUES
 

Our retreat core values are belonging, creativity, self-awareness, and renewal.  

We invite all participants to explore these in the context of their relationships with themselves, with other participants, and with the folks they return home to.

BELONGING - We strive for an inclusive environment free from cool kid tables and mean girl shit.  This community is based in compassion and care across differences.

CREATIVITY - We know growth requires dreaming, learning and mistake-making and respect each other's process.  

SELF-AWARENESS - We engage in reflection, curiosity, and self-compassion to bring greater awareness.  We respect our own and each other's boundaries.

RENEWAL - We go on retreats to renew and refresh our relationships with ourselves and those close to us.  We honor the space each of us to replenish our connections. 


THIS PROGRAM IS FOR YOU IF:

  • You are considering opening your relationship

  • You've been practicing consensual non-monogamy for a short while and want help through the bumps that have come up.  

  • You're ready to change your old relationship patterns

  • You want to think outside the box about building healthy relationships

  • You're not into doing love the way everyone else does just because it's what everyone else does

  • You want more people around you who are exploring healthy alternatives in love

  • You're interested in talking with other fun folks about love, sex, and relationships

  • You're able to think creatively without judgment and want to hear other folks experiences

THIS IS NOT FOR YOU IF:

  • You're not open to reflection, learning about relationships, or personal growth

  • You hate the Pacific Northwest

  • You can't hear about other kinds of relationships or sexualities without judgment or laughter

  • You only want to come to hook up (connections do happen of course, but they're not the primary goal here)

  • You don't believe socialization, racism, sexism, homophobia are real things

  • You can't respect other people's boundaries

  • You can't respect other people's privacy

CONVERSATION THEMES

Through the group conversations I'll be guiding you through the following themes.

 polyamory communication | polyamory rules | polyamory boundaries
 polyamory communication | polyamory rules | polyamory boundaries
 polyamory communication | polyamory rules | polyamory boundaries

STEP 1:

PERSONAL INTEGRITY

Get clear about your own values, needs, and strengths in relationships.

STEP 2:

COMMUNICATING CLEARLY

Set healthy boundaries and ask for what you need.

STEP 3:

CULTIVATING TRUST

Maintain trust within yourself and with your partner.

 polyamory communication | polyamory rules | polyamory boundaries
 polyamory communication | polyamory rules | polyamory boundaries
 polyamory communication | polyamory rules | polyamory boundaries

STEP 4:

REPAIRING CONNECTIONS

Handle challenging conversations with compassion.

STEP 5:

EXPLORING & EXPANDING

Develop intimacy and inspiration with integrity & intention.

STEP 6:

AGREEMENTS THAT LAST

Help your relationship grow and change as you do.


WHAT'S INCLUDED IN THE MEMBERSHIP?

> BI-MONTHLY LIVE 60-minute Open Heart, Open Mind Coaching Sessions - every other week you'll join a LIVE webinar. We meet Thursdays from 12:30-1:30pm PDT. You’ll receive a full list of calls and topics when you register.

> MONTHLY Q&A sessions with Gina Senarighi of Uncommon Love - join the live Q&A call with me every month and receive additional support you need.

> WEEKLY Office Hours Access - Need support when you’re feeling stuck? I offer on-call support during weekly office hours to help coach members 1:1 through tough spots.

> Foundations of Consensual Non-Monogamy 12-Week Course - 12-weeks of material designed specifically to help folks who are new to open relationships decide if opening up is the right choice.

> The Polyamory 101 Workbook - 75 pages of articles, exercises, and journaling to support your process.

> My Jealousy Workbook- 45 pages of articles, exercises, and reflections to support you when insecurity, anxiety, and jealous reactivity pop up in the process.

> Unlimited Email Support - during the course reach to me personally if you need anything.


WHAT does it cost?

 

TIME

I recommend setting aside an hour to listen to the call recording or attend live calls every other week. 

You'll want to set aside time to read, reflect, and write each week as well.

It will help you grow to engage with this dynamic community.  I recommend setting aside time to connect with other members online or in person to deepen the experience.

 

ENERGY

An often overlooked resource, your emotional and physical energy is critical to your growth (you can't do anything without it). 

You'll be asked to do some serious soul-searching.  Be sure you have solid self-care practices and professional (if needed) and personal supporters in place to nourish you.

Consider reserving time to replenish your soul regularly during the program.

MONEY

Finally, the financial contribution: $79/month.

You can pay for the program in one up-front payment or monthly installments- whichever is easier for you.  

One full six-month payment gets you a 10% discount.

There is a waitlist for reduced rate access. If you are experiencing financial hardship click here to apply for a reduced rate.

 

ENROLL TODAY


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THOUGHTS FROM PAST PARTICIPANTS

"Gina is an excellent facilitator.  I felt included from the start.  Her reflection questions really got me thinking (and sometimes crying). 

... I'm so much more confident about what I need and won't put up with when I'm dating. I just own it now."

- Nancy, Madison, WI

"We were both on board with polyamory, but we had no idea what it would really look like. 

This class breaks it down into basics so you can really get a sense of what might work for you."

- Danny, Portland, OR

COURSE MATERIALS CLASSES

As a member you’ll gain access to a 12-part course I designed for folks considering consensual non-monogamy. Check out the course topics below:

 

WEEK 1

UNDERSTANDING PERSONAL NARRATIVES & culturally DEFAULT MONOGAMY

WEEK 2

PERSONAL INTEGRITY & INTIMACY

WEEK 3

CULTIVATING TRUSTWORTHy partnerships

WEEK 4

CREATING A VISION & SHARING IT WITH LOVE

WEEK 5

SETTING COMPASSIONATE BOUNDARIES

WEEK 6

ASKING FOR WHAT YOU NEED- & getting it

 

WEEK 7

MANAGING STRONG EMOTIONS & REACTIVITY 

WEEK 8

COMMUNICATION SKILLS FOR HEALTHY CONFLICT & REPAIR

WEEK 9

PRIVACY, SECRECY & COMMUNICATION PROCESSES THAT WORK

 WEEK 10

SHARING RESOURCES (TIME, MONEY AND ENERGY)

WEEK 11

ROLES, RESPONSIBILITY & KEEPING ROMANCE ALIVE

WEEK 12

THE SECRETS OF LASTING CONNECTED RELATIONSHIPS 

 

 
 
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THOUGHTS FROM PAST PARTICIPANTS

"I can't believe I made it into my forties without knowing this stuff! 

Gina is a great teacher about all the things you never knew you need to know about relationships."

- Holly & William, Portland, Oregon

"Now I trust we'll end up fine.Even through really big hurts, I know we have a strong enough base to make it out fine.  We'll be fine." 

- Damien & Rachel, Portland, Oregon

YOU'LL WRITE, PLAN, AND DREAM YOUR WAY THROUGH THE 75-PAGE polyamory 101 workBOOK.

Included are over 60 articles and exercises to help expand your thinking and grow your capacity for love.

I'll walk you through every step of the way.

 polyamory workbook | polyamory communication | open relationship rules
 

CHAPTER ONE: REFLECTION

  • Uncover your unique monogamy story

  • Consider your cultural conditioning about love

  • Find your core values

  • Identify your needs & desires

  • Self-empathy & Self-compassion

  • Personal intimacy goals

  • Tools for continual growth in relationships

CHAPTER TWO: INTIMACY

  • Cultivate an integrity-based vision

  • Values and finding your true north

  • Unlearning unhealthy patterns

  • Practicing intimacy with ourselves

  • Being a trustworthy partner

  • Cultivating support

  • Managing shadow emotions & reactivity

CHAPTER THREE: COMMUNICATION

  • Setting compassionate boundaries

  • Asking for what you need

  • Discernment skills

  • Incorporating feedback

  • Taking partner's perspectives

  • Empathy skills & practice

  • Radical honesty

  • Accountability

  • Making up & trust repair

 

CHAPTER FOUR: PARTNERSHIP SKILLS

  • Maintaining life balance

  • Roles & responsibilities

  • Rituals and routines

  • Abundant connections

  • Relationship maintenance

  • Navigating healthy conflict

  • Keeping desire alive

  • Fueling passion in long-term relationships

  • Power exchanges

  • Cultivating deep connection

 
 
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THOUGHTS FROM PAST PARTICIPANTS

"Gina helped me love myself first.

I'm clear with myself and can ask partners for what I need now."

- Leah, New York City

"I don't want games. I want an honest open relationship without drama. Gina got us there."

- Jill & Mark, Vancouver, Washington

ABOUT YOUR FACILITATOR

 POLYAMORY RETREAT | OPEN MARRIAGE RETREAT

I GET IT.

It's really hard to find support that's both knowledgable and judgment-free when considering an open relationship.

I've trained as both a sex educator (with lived experience in consensual non-monogamy and monogamy) and as a couples counselor and marriage therapist.  When I was in graduate school there was even less research and information on serving polyamorous relationships. 

I couldn't find support for my own questioning in my marriage therapy graduate program.

I centered my studies on applying communication skills and couples counseling theory in consensually non-monogamous relationships.  I've since spent ten years and nearly 10,000 session hours working primarily with polyamorous and open marriages and couples discerning if, when, and how non-monogamy might work for them.   

I love supporting clients in session to communicate effectively, set clear compassionate boundaries, manage reactive emotions, and cultivate deeply connected partnerships.

Unfortunately I can't see every couple considering opening their relationship in coaching sessions, so I created this program for two key reasons:

  1. I wanted to share the knowledge I've gained with more people.  Even if you can't see me in Portland, or online coaching isn't the right fit right now, I've got a LOT of good stuff to share to help you sort out what's right for you and how to act on it.
  2. Most of the clients I support feel really isolated when considering opening their relationship.  They typically know very few others who are out about their open relationships (though, trust me, they are all around you) and have lots of friends and family who might judge or shame them for opening up.  

YOU DON'T HAVE TO GO IT ALONE.  

 POLYAMORY RETREAT | OPEN MARRIAGE RETREAT

I created these communities to help connect folks having intentional conversations about opening up- without judgment, shame, or blame. I wanted a space to learn from the experiences of others, share stories, and make friends with other couples who want to love more.

The core of this program is about connecting with yourself, clarifying your values and vision, understanding what's really meaningful to you in partnership so you can better connect with your partner(s). No matter what others in the groups choose, we're here to help you feel clear and strong individually.

Join us!  I'd love to have you!  

Gina Senarighi

 
 

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THOUGHTS FROM PAST PARTICIPANTS

"Gina packed SO much into this program.  I think I have tools for anything that could come up."

- Martin, Clackamas, Oregon

"We're going to be better communicators moving forward.  I definitely got what I came for.

- Karmala, Sisters, Oregon

 - Brenda & Loren, Portland, Oregon