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Open Minds Open Hearts is the signature program from Uncommon Love Polyamory Coaching that helps you:
- learn the skills necessary to navigate non-monogamy
- create a customized set of relationship agreements, make requests, and set healthy boundaries
- discern how and if consensual non-monogamy is a fit for you
- align your relationship practices with your personal integrity
Whether you ultimately practice consensual non-monogamy or not, this program will shift your partnership into a more purposeful, communicative, deeply connected relationship.
WHO ATTENDS OPEN MINDS OPEN HEARTS EVENTS?
You want to communicate effectively through difficult conversations.
You want to be heard and understood, just as you want to deeply hear and understand your partner(s).
You're interested in exploring new ways to love, possibilities for more love and intimacy in your life...
...but you're not sure what exactly that will look like. Let's create a vision you can attain together.
You have one connected partnership- and it's fulfilling on so many levels.
Let's look at how you can add more intimacy and exploration with others without threatening what you share.
IS THIS FOR YOU?
There are two fields of thought in the world of ethical non-monogamy: Sex Educators and Therapists.
Sex Educators will tell you polyamory is an enlightened form of loving based on their lived experience (and often little professional expertise). They often unintentionally shame or overwhelm participants who aren't sure non-monogamy is for them.
And the truth is, non-monogamy isn't right for everyone.
Therapists usually have excellent expertise in supporting mental health conditions- but there's nothing unhealthy about talking with a partner about desire and intimacy with other people.
While therapy is a great source of personal support, most therapists unintentionally project their personal hesitations about open relationships into your clinical conversations with them.
You want to discern what sort of relationship path is right for you and you don't need more judgment in your life.
THIS PROGRAM WILL:
- CLARIFY WHAT YOU NEED AND WANT INDIVIDUALLY- SO YOU CAN CULTIVATE THE RIGHT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP FOR YOU.
- INFORM YOU ABOUT ALL THE OPTIONS WITHOUT JUDGING YOU.
- SUPPORT YOU WITH SKILLS TO BUILD INTENTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS OF ALL KINDS.
NO MATTER WHAT PATH YOU CHOOSE.
Enter Gina: I've trained as both a sex educator (with lived experience in consensual non-monogamy and monogamy) and as a couples counselor and marriage therapist. When I was in graduate school there was even less research and information on serving polyamorous relationships.
I centered my studies on applying communication skills and couples counseling theory in consensually non-monogamous relationships. I've since spent ten years and nearly 10,000 session hours working primarily with polyamorous and open marriages and couples discerning if, when, and how non-monogamy might work for them.
Unfortunately I can't see every couple considering opening their relationship in coaching sessions, so I created this program for two key reasons:
- I wanted to share the knowledge I've gained with more people. Even if you can't see me in Portland, or online coaching isn't the right fit right now, I've got a LOT of good stuff to share to help you sort out what's right for you and how to act on it.
- Most of the clients I support feel really isolated when considering opening their relationship. They typically know very few others who are out about their open relationships (though, trust me, they are all around you) and have lots of friends and family who might judge or shame them for opening up.
I created these communities to help connect folks having intentional conversations about opening up- without judgment, shame, or blame. I wanted a space to learn from the experiences of others, share stories, and make friends with other couples who want to love more.
The core of this program is about connecting with yourself, clarifying your values and vision, understanding what's really meaningful to you in partnership so you can better connect with your partner(s).
LET ME SAY SOMETHING:
YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO RELATIONSHIPS THE WAY EVERYONE ELSE DOES.
WHAT WE KNOW DOESN'T WORK
The default model of monogamy, where we don't talk about options, desires, or fantasies because we worry we'll threaten our partnership doesn't work. It leaves couples afraid to communicate, isolated, and ashamed of the natural desires that occur in life.
Couples who can talk about intimacy and inspiration with others are far less likely to experience infidelity. They're also far more likely to share deeply connected intimacy long-term.
Partners who have carefully looked at what intimacy, commitment, fidelity, and trust mean to them, and have built strong practices managing their own reactivity are better positioned to build meaningful intentional relationships.
Whether you choose to act on those desires and deepen intimacy with more than one partner or not, it's essential to your relationship's health that you are able to have the sometimes challenging conversations that can arise when new fascinations arise.
This program will help you get curious about the default cultural norms you've unintentionally integrated to carefully determine which serve you so you can build a custom-tailored relationship with intentionality moving forward.