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Open Minds Open Hearts is the signature program from Uncommon Love Polyamory Coaching that helps you:

  • learn the skills necessary to navigate non-monogamy
  • create a customized set of relationship agreements, make requests, and set healthy boundaries
  • discern how and if consensual non-monogamy is a fit for you
  • align your relationship practices with your personal integrity

Whether you ultimately practice consensual non-monogamy or not, this program will shift your partnership into a more purposeful, communicative, deeply connected relationship.

 

WHO ATTENDS OPEN MINDS OPEN HEARTS EVENTS?

COMMUNICATION

You want to communicate effectively through difficult conversations. 

You want to be heard and understood, just as you want to deeply hear and understand your partner(s).

LOVERS

You're interested in exploring new ways to love, possibilities for more love and intimacy in your life...

...but you're not sure what exactly that will look like. Let's create a vision you can attain together.

PARTNERSHIPS

You have one connected partnership- and it's fulfilling on so many levels. 

Let's look at how you can add more intimacy and exploration with others without threatening what you share.



IS THIS FOR YOU?

There are two fields of thought in the world of ethical non-monogamy: Sex Educators and Therapists. 

Sex Educators will tell you polyamory is an enlightened form of loving based on their lived experience (and often little professional expertise). They often unintentionally shame or overwhelm participants who aren't sure non-monogamy is for them.  

And the truth is, non-monogamy isn't right for everyone. 

Therapists usually have excellent expertise in supporting mental health conditions- but there's nothing unhealthy about talking with a partner about desire and intimacy with other people. 

While therapy is a great source of personal support, most therapists unintentionally project their personal hesitations about open relationships into your clinical conversations with them. 

You want to discern what sort of relationship path is right for you and you don't need more judgment in your life. 

THIS PROGRAM WILL:

  • CLARIFY WHAT YOU NEED AND WANT INDIVIDUALLY- SO YOU CAN CULTIVATE THE RIGHT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP FOR YOU.
  • INFORM YOU ABOUT ALL THE OPTIONS WITHOUT JUDGING YOU.
  • SUPPORT YOU WITH SKILLS TO BUILD INTENTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS OF ALL KINDS.

NO MATTER WHAT PATH YOU CHOOSE.

Enter Gina: I've trained as both a sex educator (with lived experience in consensual non-monogamy and monogamy) and as a couples counselor and marriage therapist.  When I was in graduate school there was even less research and information on serving polyamorous relationships. 

I centered my studies on applying communication skills and couples counseling theory in consensually non-monogamous relationships.  I've since spent ten years and nearly 10,000 session hours working primarily with polyamorous and open marriages and couples discerning if, when, and how non-monogamy might work for them.   

Unfortunately I can't see every couple considering opening their relationship in coaching sessions, so I created this program for two key reasons:

  1. I wanted to share the knowledge I've gained with more people.  Even if you can't see me in Portland, or online coaching isn't the right fit right now, I've got a LOT of good stuff to share to help you sort out what's right for you and how to act on it.
  2. Most of the clients I support feel really isolated when considering opening their relationship.  They typically know very few others who are out about their open relationships (though, trust me, they are all around you) and have lots of friends and family who might judge or shame them for opening up.  

I created these communities to help connect folks having intentional conversations about opening up- without judgment, shame, or blame. I wanted a space to learn from the experiences of others, share stories, and make friends with other couples who want to love more.

The core of this program is about connecting with yourself, clarifying your values and vision, understanding what's really meaningful to you in partnership so you can better connect with your partner(s). 


 

 

LET ME SAY SOMETHING:

YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO RELATIONSHIPS THE WAY EVERYONE ELSE DOES.

 

WHAT WE KNOW DOESN'T WORK

The default model of monogamy, where we don't talk about options, desires, or fantasies because we worry we'll threaten our partnership doesn't work.  It leaves couples afraid to communicate, isolated, and ashamed of the natural desires that occur in life. 

Couples who can talk about intimacy and inspiration with others are far less likely to experience infidelity. They're also far more likely to share deeply connected intimacy long-term.

Partners who have carefully looked at what intimacy, commitment, fidelity, and trust mean to them, and have built strong practices managing their own reactivity are better positioned to build meaningful intentional relationships.

Whether you choose to act on those desires and deepen intimacy with more than one partner or not, it's essential to your relationship's health that you are able to have the sometimes challenging conversations that can arise when new fascinations arise.  

This program will help you get curious about the default cultural norms you've unintentionally integrated to carefully determine which serve you so you can build a custom-tailored relationship with intentionality moving forward.

 

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IS THIS PROGRAM FOR ME?

YOU WANT MORE LOVE, INSPIRATION, CONNECTEDNESS, AND EXPLORATION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

YOU KNOW HEALTHY NON-MONOGAMY IS POSSIBLE - BUT DON'T KNOW HOW TO MAKE IT HAPPEN

YOU'RE WANT A jUDGMENT-FREE SPACE TO EXPLORE WHAT'S RIGHT FOR YOU

YOU KNOW HUMANS EVOLVE AND GROW- YOU WANT A RELATIONSHIP THAT DOES TOO

YOU WANT TO LIVE LIFE TO IT'S FULLEST

YOU'RE IN A RELATIONSHIP YOU LOVE AND ARE COMMITTED TO IT'S WELL-BEING

YOU LIKE LEARNING WITH OTHER PEOPLE

OUR program GOALS

Our aim is to deepen self-understanding to get clear about what each participant needs individually so we can create relationship structures and agreements that support your specific needs. 

Our learning will focus on these fundamentals:

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Deepening Self-Understanding and Self-Compassion

The basis of all love is self-love. We'll work together to build self-awareness around each participant's needs, desires, and hopes based in your unique strengths and personal integrity. You'll walk away with a more confident understanding of what really matters, and where you're willing to compromise.

 
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Clarifying a Shared Visioning

Whether you ultimately choose some form of intentional monogamy or consensual non-monogamy in a partnership, you need to have a shared goal or vision in mind. We'll use a strengths-based model to clarify your vision as it relates to shared intimacy to lay a foundation for your future together.

 
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Creating Intentional Relationship Agreements

Once we have clarity about where you'd like to go together we'll help you get thereby strengthening your commitments and agreements. Whether monogamous or not it is essential to have clear boundaries in relationships.  We'll help you draft a set of agreements to guide you on your new path.

 
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Strengthening Communication Skills for Alternative Relationships

No matter your relationship structure if you plan to stay together over time you need to have the necessary communication skills to check in and adjust plans as your needs and desires evolve. You'll learn skills to clarify boundaries and expectations and navigate intimacy and consent with trust and integrity.

 
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PROGRAM VALUES
 

Our retreat core values are belonging, creativity, self-awareness, and renewal.  

We invite all participants to explore these in the context of their relationships with themselves, with other participants, and with the folks they return home to.

BELONGING - We strive for an inclusive environment free from cool kid tables and mean girl shit.  This community is based in compassion and care across differences.

CREATIVITY - We know growth requires dreaming, learning and mistake-making and respect each other's process.  

SELF-AWARENESS - We engage in reflection, curiosity, and self-compassion to bring greater awareness.  We respect our own and each other's boundaries.

RENEWAL - We go on retreats to renew and refresh our relationships with ourselves and those close to us.  We honor the space each of us to replenish our connections. 


THIS PROGRAM IS FOR YOU IF:

  • You are considering opening your relationship

  • You've been practicing consensual non-monogamy for a short while and want help through the bumps that have come up.  

  • You're ready to change your old relationship patterns

  • You want to think outside the box about building healthy relationships

  • You're not into doing love the way everyone else does just because it's what everyone else does

  • You want more people around you who are exploring healthy alternatives in love

  • You're interested in talking with other fun folks about love, sex, and relationships

  • You're able to think creatively without judgment and want to hear other folks experiences

THIS IS NOT FOR YOU IF:

  • You're not open to reflection, learning about relationships, or personal growth

  • You hate the Pacific Northwest

  • You can't hear about other kinds of relationships or sexualities without judgment or laughter

  • You only want to come to hook up (connections do happen of course, but they're not the primary goal here)

  • You don't believe socialization, racism, sexism, homophobia are real things

  • You can't respect other people's boundaries

  • You can't respect other people's privacy

 

ABOUT YOUR FACILITATOR

 POLYAMORY COACH | OPEN MARRIAGE COACH

I GET IT.

It's really hard to find support that's both knowledgable and judgment-free when considering an open relationship.

I've trained as both a sex educator (with lived experience in consensual non-monogamy and monogamy) and as a couples counselor and marriage therapist.  When I was in graduate school there was even less research and information on serving polyamorous relationships. 

I couldn't find support for my own questioning in my marriage therapy graduate program.

I centered my studies on applying communication skills and couples counseling theory in consensually non-monogamous relationships.  I've since spent ten years and nearly 10,000 session hours working primarily with polyamorous and open marriages and couples discerning if, when, and how non-monogamy might work for them.   

I love supporting clients in session to communicate effectively, set clear compassionate boundaries, manage reactive emotions, and cultivate deeply connected partnerships.

Unfortunately I can't see every couple considering opening their relationship in coaching sessions, so I created this program for two key reasons:

  1. I wanted to share the knowledge I've gained with more people.  Even if you can't see me in Portland, or online coaching isn't the right fit right now, I've got a LOT of good stuff to share to help you sort out what's right for you and how to act on it.
  2. Most of the clients I support feel really isolated when considering opening their relationship.  They typically know very few others who are out about their open relationships (though, trust me, they are all around you) and have lots of friends and family who might judge or shame them for opening up.  
 
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You don't have to go it alone.  

I created these communities to help connect folks having intentional conversations about opening up- without judgment, shame, or blame. I wanted a space to learn from the experiences of others, share stories, and make friends with other couples who want to love more.

The core of this program is about connecting with yourself, clarifying your values and vision, understanding what's really meaningful to you in partnership so you can better connect with your partner(s). No matter what others in the groups choose, we're here to help you feel clear and strong individually.

Join us!  I'd love to have you!  

Gina Senarighi